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WHEN LIFE FEELS EMPTY

Sunday, March 20, 2011

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When life feels empty,
people manifest syndromes, sicknesses, gambling, indulging, overspending, self deprivation, self sabotage, anger. They resent and hold on to unresolved issues.  People become the victim of workplace bullying, and/or the domestic/sibling bully. We become unsettled and over loaded with limitations of all kinds, no matter what happens many are still unfulfilled.

Is your life empty?
Are you busy with busyness and deep inside feel empty?
Are you amongst the people who wander from day to day with a yearning for that someone or something to fulfil you needs?

If yes, devoid of inner contentment, peace and self kindness your soul is impoverished and you wander the earth looking for that something else to fulfil your needs.

Searching for... what?

When was the last time you took time out for you?  When did you do something special for you ... without feeling guilty?

Life is finite, why spend time yearning, fearing, judging, comparing, being harsh on our self?

Be the change you want to see.

Have an inward look with a kindly eye. Be kind, if you notice the seeds of self kindness are shrivelled and dying, water them with love. Feed them the foods that will nourish and strengthen their purpose and right to exist. Encourage kindness to take time for a self hug, picnic at the park, walk by the water, discover changes in the forest, play more music, sing, dance, have fun and laugh lots.

Plant inner-strength and gentleness companions and protectors. Instruct your self-kindness receptors to only absorb positive comments and guidance.

If you are yearning for human company join a walk or bike for charity or some other community project become involved in human endeavour, stop waiting for the perfect project, just go out and
do it.

Take a wander through the garden of your mind – you may be surprised at what has grown there since last you looked!

Role Models

Many live in a harsh (usually self made) world where they get over-wrought providing, creating an image (for who I wonder), often forgetting the example we are creating to those who follow us.

As role models, we tell our children ‘treat others as you wish to be treated’! Do our children see us being kind to our-self. Do they hear us speak loving words to our-self or are the only words they hear us muttering are self-foolish and derogatory affirmations.
Are you seen as a work-a-holic, a driver, a person who never rests or has limited time for family, friends and community? Is this the expectation, the subliminal message you wish to impart to those whose lives you influence.

In the grand scheme of things, we are here on earth a very short time.

In the end, only kindness matters! Take another walk through the garden of your mind, throw out the plants of resentment, perfection and loneliness, be rid of the idea/seed that you have to prove to someone or society that ‘you are’ what they thought you could never be! In the garden of your heart, plant seeds of kind-hearted-ness for yourself, your family, your community and for future generations – be a kindness role model.

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THE COURAGE TO LIVE CONSCIOUSLY

Monday, February 28, 2011
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Were you taught not to draw attention to yourself?
Don't take unnecessary risks!
Go with the flow, and don't rock the boat!Instead of setting your own goals, making plans to achieve them, and going after them with gusto, you play it safe?A side effect to ‘playing it safe’ in your life is that it can cause you to live your life reactively. There are real dangers in life that must be avoided however there is also a huge gulf between being reckless and having courage.Having the courage to live courageously means having the ability to face imaginary fears and reclaim the powerful life that you have quite possibly, denied yourself. Have you ever had a, fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of humiliation, fear of public speaking, fear of being criticized or ostracized by family and friends, fear of being alone, fear of physical discomfort, fear of regret, fear of success? How many of these fears are holding you back?

How would you live if you had no fear at all?  You'd still have your intelligences and common sense to safely navigate around any real dangers.But, you would be more willing to speak up for what you want. You would be more ambitious about projects and the career you dream of; and what if you began enjoying the aspects of your life that you currently fear. What kind of difference would that make in your life?Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear. ~ Ambrose RedmoonCourage is mastery over fear. Courageous people are still afraid, but they don't let fear paralyse them. They summon the courage to confront their inner voice.Yesterday, my life changed!

I had the best-est weekend presenting our 'speak-up master class'. I’ve taught the speak-up master class before, it’s like no other. Yesterday I realized that as I develop myself,  so my ‘master classes’ change.  Never before had we attracted people for this class that were so ready and committed to improve their Public Speaking Skills and On-Stage performance.

As I scrutinized the weekend one word contributed to the success of the program more than any other emotion and that word is ‘safe’. Participants felt safe to explore, safe to
give-it-a-go. Safe to express, safe to step outside their comfort zone, safe to explore new avenues of doing and expressing, far beyond the average person, they felt safe to raise their level of awareness-consciousness.Safe? 
How does one create that space. I asked for it. I asked my class on Saturday morning to create a place whereby we each felt safe to totally participate, to be able to reach further than we had ever stretched before without remorse or a feeling of being thought a bit silly or totally outrageous.

Do you have a coach or mentor that has openness, eagerness and courage and unlocks the same in you?Love takes off masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within.
~
James A. Baldwin

When you meet a person who seems to be at total peace with their self, don't deny the fact that you crave that level of inner peace too. Move to a place where you admit, "I really do want this, but I just don't feel I currently have the ability to get it." I have known many people who pretend they don’t want to be ‘the best’!

You do want to become ‘your best’, don’t you?The one ingredient you may be hunting for is courage. Courage to live consciously!

I suggest you first begin with knowing what ‘safe’ is. Create that place! And in creating your safe place make sure it is not a place of tight security, but a place whereby you can grow without fear of retribution.As you grow ... remember the oak tree, it was once an acorn that sprouted, put its roots down and grew! “Don't be afraid to go where you've never gone; And do what you've never done, because both are necessary to have what you've never had, and be who you've never been.”... Sylvia Marina.  
Personal Development Mentor   Copyright ©2011 Sylvia Marina | Speaker | Author | Mentor
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CONQUERING FEAR BRINGS FREEDOM

Sunday, February 13, 2011

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Fear keeps our lives small.

To have the life you want, you must conquer fear!

If you only had a year to live, would you change anything? Would you keep working at the same job? Spend time with the same people? Keep waiting till your idea/project/course/lesson was perfect before launching the next phase of our life? Are there places you've always hoped to visit?

Marie Currie said, “Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.”

Figure out exactly what you're afraid of. Is it being lonely? Going broke? Being criticized?
Before you can toss fear out, you have to know what you're afraid of. Recognize it. 

We work with people from all walks of life, disciplines and cultures and recognize that amongst the worst sorrows in life are not its losses and misfortunes, but its fears!

Fear keeps our lives small.
Get smart... Talk to those who have gone before you.
 
A business trainer client has a valuable product in terms of building better businesses through building more effective workplace teams, BUT is frustrated ... waiting for the self to be perfect!
The product is fantastic, BUT it is veiled, hidden out of sight! It should be ‘out there’  being used, adding value to people’s lives and businesses, fear has held the product back Our friend was waiting to get the self and the presentation perfect and in the meanwhile it is secreted, dust gathering! What do you have hidden in your closet!

Fear keeps our lives small!   Michael Pritchard said, “Fear is that little darkroom where negatives are developed.”


Change your Focus, Change Your Future! 

What if fear were just a four letter word! Think about that!




The way to master a new task is to do it. You may not be perfect the first time, but you'll get better. If you are scared to make the big leap, start small. Do whatever you feel a little nervous about, call someone you've always admired and ask them to lunch! Just do something scary once a week and you will discover freedom, freedom from fear.

If you need a little ‘kick-in-the-pants’ consider this; you'll never get a good relationship by staying in a bad one. In business you’re not likely to build new accounts or grow your business if you don’t meet new people. You won’t discover new oceans unless you let go the mooring ropes to where you are now!
Your world is as big as you make it.

Alleviate misery and mediocrity; it’s time to build your army. You need supporters - good friends, mentors, people who have been there, people who will cheer you on.

In the business of speaking, when a speaker takes a stand, the spines of others are strengthened. Never shrink from the possibility of being a role model. Live a life that inspires others – if fear were only a four letter word, not an emotion, just a word, what could you do?

Conquering fear brings freedom. Acceptance brings happiness. Self mastery brings fulfillment!

Copyright ©2011 Sylvia Marina | Speaker | Author | Mentor
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TAKE YOUR UNDERSTANDING TO THE NEXT LEVEL.

Sunday, January 09, 2011

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TAKE YOUR UNDERSTANDING TO THE NEXT LEVEL.

Written by Sylvia Marina, Inspirational Speaker & Personal Development Mentor.

“Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have.”
– Doris Mortman

People blame external influences or their history or the feelings about themselves.

Many people gauge their success by the amount or assumed quality of the chattels they have accumulated and measure their success in terms of pecuniary value.

Material items should never be the judge of your success!  It can be difficult to put aside the notion that more is better when we live in a society where more is often interpreted as ‘success’, it’s a myth! For many the more they have the more dissatisfied they become, addicted to ‘more’ they strive for excess.

No matter how much or how little we have, our contentment must come from within. Focus on how you are feeling on the inside.

  ▪ Are you feeling settled, happy and full of energy?
  ▪ Will this purchase, relationship, career move, fascination or idea, move me
    ‘closer to’ or ‘further from’,  my desire for life meaning and inner contentment?

Contentment is not something that comes from another person, item, purchase or idea. Some people have been brainwashed into thinking ‘I will be happy when...’ when I have a new kitchen only to become dissatisfied when a new colour/design or it is out-fashioned! We then become dissatisfied again and hear again, the words from our lips, I will be happy when! It becomes a ‘life cycle’.

 

When you can find contentment in yourself it will enrich your life and create meaningful abundance around you.

 

Let go of the thrill you get from addictions; sugar, caffeine, sexual impropriety and or excesses, let go of the stimulation you get from perfection, comparing self endeavor to another’s life or project! Stop trying to impress for recognition and approval...

 

If you have a habit of sabotaging your inner happiness and contentment, change your thinking, change your life processes, change your focus! Learn how to; be yourself, love yourself and be happy with yourself.

 

Happiness and contentment go hand in hand. You have the power within you to be happy every day. You can do it, be happy today. Happiness and contentment is a choice and it really has nothing to do with your surroundings or circumstances.

In the pursuit of your happiness and inner contentment, seek a mentor, a person who you recognize as someone who has walked the path and who continues to walk their talk. Allow your intelligences, your wisdom self to guide you.

“When
the voice and the vision on the inside become more profound and more clear and loud than all the opinions on the outside, you have mastered your life”. -Dr John Demartini

The Key to your future , I will be sharing some cool and new tips to help you bid goodbye to 90% of your struggles this year. It will be exciting to have you in our programs, begin with our Self Mastery program or retreat. If you are in the world of business or/and wish to boost your confidence check into the first available Public Speaking two day program.

Sylvia Marina resides in Western Australia. When you are ready to have a program in your business or community contact her for available dates. Often she can add your event to a conference where she is booked to speak or some other event she is attending.  This means her travel costs are shared with more than one event!

HELPING PEOPLE THROUGH TIMES OF CHANGE. 

Copyright ©2010 Sylvia Marina | Speaker | Author | Mentor
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MANAGE YOUR FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING

Saturday, January 08, 2011

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MANAGE YOUR FEAR OF PUBLIC SPEAKING!    

In the workplace ... what is the ‘number one’ fear?
Going for a career change ... what is the ‘number one’ fear?
In the board room presenting the ‘team talk’, new idea or product, what is the ‘number one’ fear?

In the wedding bridal group ... what’s the ‘number one’ dread?
At a significant family event ... what makes the palms of your hands sweaty?

The Fear of Public Speaking is often classed as the number one ‘fear’ of all fears!
Why?
Because we are afraid of being humiliated in front of others!

The fear can manifest itself in many ways, trembling, panicky, butterflies, increased heart beat,
dry mouth, flushing or red rising beneath your collar a visual manifestation of inner anxiety.

As horrid as these anxieties are, they are normal reactions.

You are not alone The Fear of Public Speaking is the ‘number one’ fear. But why suffer?

There are techniques you can use to overcome the dread of ‘being humiliated’.

1)    Plan what you want to say!

2)    Write down the main points in bullet point.

3)    Practice, you don’t have to memorize everything

4)    Time yourself – be disciplines and stay well within the allocated time for your presentation.

Practice, practice, practice!  Practice builds confidence.

Some people use the trick of asking permission to refer to notes, or to be nervous. If you wish to do this, be prepared for some clown in your audience not to grant permission! Have an answer ready should this situation arise.

Personally I don’t ask permission to speak or use notes etc. My audiences have come to listen to my message and to ask permission can be interpreted as being incompetent!

I work with people to the point where they understand and overcome their anxiety, the skills they learn increases their confidence so they have no need to ask permission or apologize for using their props.

Please don’t misunderstand me, ‘permission selling’ is another topic.

Back to the practice... most people do not want to hear this, but the best way to conquer the fear of speaking from stage or to an audience is practice, practice, practice.
The only way a musician becomes ‘one’ with their musical instrument is by daily working with it. Conquering the fear of Public Speaking is the same. You can practice tone, voice projection, pauses and flow of speech by reading aloud – newspaper news and business articles. Read them as if you were on stage speaking before a large audience. It will increase your confidence.

No fear should rule you! The ability to stand in front of your peers and present a an idea; to get up on stage and get your message out to many people,  allows you to touch a roomful of strangers and more importantly, move them to follow the cause close to your heart. 
As you overcome your anxiety and fear of Public Speaking it allows you to build your customer base, multiply your sales and increases your confidence.

Start practicing this week? Who knows how much confidence you’ll get from simply standing up and shining your light in the world.
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LIFE'S SIMPLE BLESSINGS

Sunday, December 26, 2010

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No matter where you are, you cannot miss that time has brought us into another festive season.

Whether your Christmas was a huge family gathering, or spent a long way from home, I wish you peace and joy. Whether it was friendship and chatter around a turkey or a tin of sardines, I hope that your year in 2011 brings you opportunity, satisfaction and contentment.

Family gatherings can often be a time of too much, too much food, alcohol, expensive gifts and for some, arguments. Perhaps that is the way of some families saying...we are ‘home’!

L. House from West Australia wrote: In our land of droughts and flooding rains, it is sometimes very difficult to consider being blessed when looking at shrivelled or sodden crops, dealing with locusts, flystrike, fires or more water coming through your home. Maybe you have tragically lost someone close to you, or wonder how you can carry on another year financially or in a relationship. There are more crosses to bear than is possible to name.

 

And in the land and island of my birth there has been the uncertainty of earthquakes and the coal mine tragedy to name but two.

Christmas is a time of counting life’s simple blessings. The magnificence of sunrise, a beautiful sunset, good friends, family, nutritious food, a peaceful evening and a pet at your side.

It is also a time to acknowledge realities.
I cherish friends and loved ones who have remembered us, but for me... My sister in New Zealand was unexpectedly widowed and it was my privilege to be at her side. So forgive me dear friends, this year, my card is missing from your mantelpiece, but you can be sure my love and appreciation for what you mean in my life is not missing from my heart, you are remembered in my thoughts.

Traditionally this is the time of year when we review the past twelve months, ponder the present and envision how the future will be. 

The past twelve months has brought challenges. I’m deeply grateful to have David support my purpose and passion.  When your life’s work is your passion and your passion is your life’s purpose, if you want to be true to your life’s purpose; it’s impossible to stray from your, reason to be, even though some patches of the road may seem rocky once you know and understand the journey your passion does not fade or diminish.

Our work involves helping people through ‘times of change’ and this year we had ‘times of change’. There were times when we needed to consider our physical health and when the body demanded rest I learnt to surrender to that call. We had holidays and ‘time out’ and now as 2011 peeps over the horizon we are looking forward with renewed strength and fervour to our future.

Our lives are truly blessed as repeatedly we see the results of our work manifest through the lives of our mentee’s as they discover their purpose and diligently seek ways to grow their lives in alignment with their purpose. It is as though a light has been switched on and an inner strength, a new happiness and a joy that changes their entire countenance, and instead of striving for balance they’ve learned the secret to ‘living in harmony’.

Before I close this message I want to share with you a favourite ode from - George Bernard Shaw 1856-1950.

This is the true joy in life, being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one. Being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances, complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community and as long as I live, it is my privilege to do for it what I can. I want to be thoroughly used up when I die, for the harder I work, the more I live. I rejoice in life for its own sake. Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendid torch which I have got hold of for the moment and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handing it on to future generations.

 

If you have not had the opportunity to take our Self Mastery classes or a life changing retreat or the mentoring program we invite you to begin this year with us.

May love embrace you as you create another beautiful year.

HELPING PEOPLE THROUGH TIMES OF CHANGE ~ Sylvia Marina
 
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EVOLVE YOUR FUTURE

Saturday, December 11, 2010

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EVOLVE YOUR FUTURE
Written by Sylvia Marina, Master Trainer and Personal Development Mentor.

What life-long goals and dreams do you have for your life, health, relationships, spirituality and wealth? Are you actively pursuing them?
Or, are they squirreled-away at the back of your mind for another time, another season?

I’m writing to you from my sister’s home in Auckland, New Zealand.
So much has happened in our lives since the recent sudden passing of her husband.
It is in the clear thinking moments and the in-between moments of times
like this that internal questions regarding life and what it truly means to people like
you and me, that more is revealed. And it is in resolute moments that our
life path is clearly visible and our purpose refreshed.

December is often a time of awakening as people think of family and friends and
prepare their homes for celebration. Last week as we prepared for the celebration
of my brother-in-laws life so many remembrances came to light. People spoke of
the gift he had given and how those life-skill gifts would live on.

Sad it will be, if today in the times of life-reflection we revisit life-long goals and
dreams and as tomorrow dawns we commence the day with clarity of purpose and
then, slip back to sleep, back to the known life.

          Are the old ways really what you want?
          Are you really living your best possible life?
          A
re you repeating self destructive behaviour over and over again?
            Do you have a clear direction for your life?

One thing I know; as a child I was a ‘sometimes sleepwalker’.

In my adult life I know it is up to me to purposefully ‘evolve my future’. I also know
you don’t do that unless we consciously wake up to our behaviour patterns.
Are you a ‘sleepwalker’, a wanderer of life hoping that life will turn out the
way you daydream about it.


            Many people are physically awake, yet living unconsciously!

Have you ever seen people who have no clarity in their life? Living on a day-by-day basis, never thinking about the future or what they really want or the message they could be instilling into the lives of those around them? These people are not able to articulate what their life is about. Every day, they are just running around doing various activities such as working, playing, partying, sleeping, but none of it has any relation to the bigger picture of life. They are not fully aware of who they are, or the larger context of life that they are a part of and their real purpose in life.

If you identify yourself as a sometimes aimless sleepwalker and wish to stop living other people’s vision and goals; if you have a desire to evolve and express your life more effectively so that your life becomes a gift that inspires the life of an observer, you can begin now.

We help people connect to their inner quiet space where you can unite and be at one with your purpose, to be clear on your life’s path and become ‘The Gift’ and Master of Your Life.

HELPING PEOPLE THROUGH TIMES OF CHANGE. 

Copyright ©2010 Sylvia Marina | Speaker | Author | Mentor
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COURAGE

Sunday, November 21, 2010

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COURAGE!    IS IT YOUR FRIEND?

Courage is the ability to take action in spite of fear.
The word courage derives from the Latin cor  which means ‘heart.’  It is a quality, a core strength that in the face of fear gives you the determination to take action.

The more you learn to act in spite of fear, the more human you become. The more you follow the fear, the more you live like a lower mammal. The question, "Are you a man or a mouse?" is consistent with human neurology.

Last Monday in our *Good Medicine notes we asked the question; do you live in a world where to trust another human is difficult? ... today I ask....do you trust yourself?

Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear...Ambrose

Courageous people are still afraid, but they don't let the fear paralyse them. Understand that people who lack courage, give into fear more often than not, which actually has a long-term energy of strengthening the fear.

When you avoid facing a fear and then feel relieved that you escaped it, this acts as a psychological reward that reinforces mouse-like ‘avoidance behaviour’, making you even more likely to avoid facing the fear in the future. This behaviour conditions the self to become more timid. You begin to criticize people who have a healthy self image.
Jealously, foolish pleasure ... this reinforces avoidance behaviour.

Eventually people cocoon their self into a life that insulates them.
Insulated in a stable but unhappy marriage, insulated in a job or income that keeps them comfortable but they hate it. They frequently hear their own words of justification, I’m not trained for anything else, too old to change career, he/she is a good person and even though I’m unfulfilled in the relationship I can’t complain... But you do!

There's something else going on behind the scenes, isn't there?
That voice in the back of your mind recalls that this isn't the kind of life you wanted to live.
It wants more, much more.

It wants you to have the courage to have a meaningful relationship, to experience companionship truth and love, to learn new skills, to travel the world, to have friends you can trust, to help people in need, to make a meaningful difference.

The foundation for self mastery in to learn how to heal your fear! Surrender to love. Love is the essence of life and living, the antithesis of love is fear.  Have courage my friend.

‘Don't be afraid to go where you've never gone; And do what you've never done, because both are necessary to have what you've never had, and be who you've never been.’ ... Sylvia Marina

The self mastery programs http://sylviamarina.com/Programs/MasteryProgramsAndRetreats.htm are designed to give you back the control of your life rather than your long held beliefs anchoring you to references that are no longer appropriate for now or into your future.

Sylvia Marina, Personal Development Mentor 

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WHY DOES IT SEEM SO ...

Sunday, November 07, 2010

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WHY DOES IT SEEM SO...

Written by Sylvia Marina, Master Trainer & Personal Development Mentor

Why does it seem so much easier to express love for others than it does to express it for ourselves?

 

For many, our culture has taught us to be humble, and to not think too much of ourselves. The notion of loving who we are reeks a bit like conceit. Are we confused about what that means?  Does being humble and not thinking too much of ourselves translate into silently beating ourselves up for what we haven't done, or for what we're not?

 

We have the power and now we have the opportunity to stop the negative self talk, erase the negative bits of what others think you should be and immediately replace with thoughts that are good for us !

 

Stop wallowing in what's happened to you. Use the past as a step up to who you have the capabilities of becoming.

 

Rip-off the mask of perfection that we have been pressured into wearing! It's imperative that we ignore negative and impossible messages we're inundated with from childhood, school days and the media and replace them with ones that allow us to authentically enjoy who we are and where we are in our lives.

 

Use the experience and the learning from the past to help others, make a difference and create change. From your experiences, learn how to overcome low self-esteem, as well as the negative beliefs and playing small, to have more confidence and to really go for what you want in life.
I learned about having compassion for others to know that we all have painful experiences that shape who we are today; we all have fears and things holding us back, but these don't need to continue to hold us back.

 

No quality is more attractive than having a deep sense of being at ease with yourself and the world. This is your life purpose.

 

When we have a deep sense of being at ease with our-self and the world, it is then that we begin to affect people. We become an inspiration in the lives of others. It is then you begin to feel the joy of being at peace, and making a difference.

 

It is essential to think well of ourselves ‘I value, trust and enjoy who I am’. When we are strong on the inside we have what it takes to find the solutions, and take the step forward.

 

It is necessary to pause long enough to listen to what's going on in our heads. We need to identify what to change before we can make the shift, and then, we have to pause.

The tricky part is that this internal chatter has been going on for so long it's become part of us; we don't even notice or question it anymore. But it's there, these thoughts don't just float out into the air. Everything you say to yourself gets imprinted on your subconscious and cellular memory subsequently affects your self-concept.  What you say to yourself matters.

 

For reasons I have been writing about is why we present self mastery programs. Many feel they need to be at almost guru status to attend our Mastery programs. Not so!
Our Mastery programs give you the skills to overcome self defeating programs, you learn how to release self doubt, guilt and fear so that you can make the shift, stop being what others want you to be, step into your power and discover your authentic self.


Sylvia Marina ND Master Trainer & Personal Development Mentor 
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MANAGING ANGER CAN BE CHALLENGING.
 
Written by Sylvia Marina, Master Trainer and Personal Development Mentor.

 

Managing anger can be very challenging for people who find the society they are choosing to live in, frustrating.

When people state either silently to themselves or during confidential conversation that they have problems with impatience and frequently find themselves losing their temper with others, it is time to seek professional help.

Overly defensive people see threats just about everywhere. Excessive anxiety and stress activates the sympathetic nervous system. The excessive stimulation activates a ‘learned reaction’ that loved ones, family, friends and work colleagues often wonder if there is a way to unlearn this destructive aggression.

 

All learnt reaction can be un-learnt.

 

It simply necessitates identifying the time(s) when the pattern of behaviour began and change the behaviour at that level. The memory is sometimes stored in the cellular memory and often traced to genetic roots, from generations old. It is interesting to note the many times I have discovered that aggressive behaviour is linked to both ancestral (maternal and paternal) DNA.

 

“Harness the power of your inner mind to re-program aggressive reactions!”

People who experience aggressive outbursts are actually searching for understanding, love and kindness and yet in part, their life is in famine, they fear loneliness and that’s the very thing that happens to them because people want to protect themselves from aggression and create a distance (put a wall around their-self) for protection.

Now we have the aggressor with their wall (aggressive reaction) plus loved ones, family, friends and work colleagues with an emotional barrier of protection and the aggressor is forced into a difficult place that is hard to climb out of. It’s lonely! The aggressor reacts even more!

 

The aggressor needs help to dissociate and develop an automatic response to react differently to events that formerly caused them to say/do things that they later regretted AND the people, loved ones, family, friends and work colleagues, requiring new trust skills so that they can take down their wall of reaction/protection too.

 

Life has choices! If it is time to diminish excessive reactivity we can help.

If you are the witness or the aggressor, antagonist or protagonist, we can help understand what is happening. You will be able to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological issues that cause anger so you’ll be able to live your life without the fear of losing control.

 

Excessive thinking about a negative future state will cause You to be unhappy with life.
This can affect relationships, sleep patterns, health, and even your ability to function in your work environment.

 

When a person begins to understand what is internally happening and gain an ability to let go of intruding, illogical thoughts and behaviour, their focus will move from negative thoughts, fears and reactions to thoughtful, constructive, optimistic thinking. When thinking is in order, words and actions become positive and life for all takes on a new energy, a considerate energy of kindness and harmony!

 

If you truly want to change your world my friend, you must change your thinking; often the source of that thinking is well below the surface.

Our motto ‘Helping People Through Times Of Change’. Our consultations and  programs are designed to give you the skills to change your world, to a world of love, understanding, kindness, harmony and as you learn, understand and weave your own new tapestry of life you realise every positive action is another step on the ‘self mastery’ journey.


Sylvia Marina, Master Trainer and Personal Development Mentor.

HELPING PEOPLE THROUGH TIMES OF CHANGE. 

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