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SELF WORTH

Saturday, April 04, 2015

SELF WORTH. Written by Sylvia Marina

Do you personally feel an equally treasured part of society?

Perhaps not in so many words, but the subject of worth, worthiness, value, and validity come up time and again.

Have you ever considered your worth?

Building your self worth is fundamental to bringing meaning and achieving real purpose in your life. It often means having the courage to be vulnerable to emotional exposure.

What would you be like if you started today
to make the most of the rest of your life?
If you turned a corner and awoke! ~ Jean Houston

To be truly successful in life we must move past what society attempts to depict about what it means to have succeeded, and create our own definition of success based on the human qualities and virtues that we each value most.

It is critical for your spiritual, emotional and mental health to understand your true worth, your inner value. 

Your sanity and sense of wellbeing depends on it.

Self worth has in many societies its foundation in appearances, material possessions, career, marital status, physical appearance etc. Unwittingly excessive value on outward appearances is used to determine self worth. Too often little consideration is given to the loftier values of a person, emotional and spiritual intelligence, integrity, kind-heartedness.

When you realize your innate worth, you will naturally strive to understand and fulfill your potential. You will stop your concern of what others think or say or their expectations of you. 

You will:

  •  be the director of your own destiny
  •  exude confidence in yourself
  •  discover your true happiness 

Making it your goal to inwardly live and outwardly display the human qualities and virtues you most value and admire. As a consequence you will find material matters and appearances no longer define you, rather that which seemed so far from your reach begins flowing freely towards you.

This is what it means to succeed your way.

Steeped in your own Self Worth values, you begin living authentically. 

2015© Sylvia Marina ND.,
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BELONGING

Monday, March 23, 2015

BELONGING
Outside on the back patio, three generations of family enjoying conversation, together, just being!

This is what it means to connect, to belong.

You must look past your flaws and frustrations and have faith that within you is everything you need to succeed, your strengths and gifts, intelligences and joy – perhaps you just need to
find a way to connect?

I love these times. The moment when a drop of water sneaks out the eye... a splash of gratitude, a trickle of love, a heartfelt moment of overwhelm.                                                            

And then... in my mind I momentarily transported my thoughts to another time when a blob of teardrops fell out my eyes for a different reason, the feeling of no-where to belong.

Growing up between two cultures there were incommunicable differences that demonstrated to me ‘I was an outsider’. A re-occurring childhood feeling of no-where to belong!
A horrid conflict that troubled me for years.

I’ve learnt, people do not have to be an outsider to be yearning love and experiencing separation.

Never lose sight of your purpose.
Remember, the tallest oak in the forest was
a little oak that held it’s ground.

I clearly remember the day I became aware that my past was a gift.

There were some moments when I connected when I knew the experience of belonging – it’s just so much of my years were spent ‘trying’. Was it like that for you too?

Trying to fit in, trying to be what others wanted me to be...that was most everyone except for, yes there were those....they loved me and maybe others did too but to know love one has to feel it in your heart and in your gut.

I confess, I didn’t know it at the time (there’s so much to learn and know when you are young), but I do now...to ‘belong’ is a basic need. Possibly in the minds of many I did belong, I just didn’t feel it and because I didn’t feel included, I thought I didn’t belong!

A thought is harmless, until we believe it! ~ Byron Katie.

It’s not our thoughts, but our attachment to our thoughts, that cause suffering.

To know you belong is sacred.

Feeling nature, breathing her air, sensing and living her changes.
Watching the marvelous-ness of the night sky, sensing the early morning stirrings and witnessing the day activities till evening calls to rest. The cycle of nature, the cycle of life – it’s sacred.

Surrender to the sacred – it’s a great place to belong.
 
2015© Sylvia Marina ND.,
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WORDS ARE ENERGY

Sunday, March 01, 2015

WORDS ARE ENERGY…  written by Sylvia Marina

In a seminar I was presenting recently, at the tea break I noticed one of the participants reading a book from my library, and smiled as I recalled some of the words between the pages and in the days since that moment every time I walk past this collection of books I smile as I recall authors…Louise Hay, Bob Proctor, Richard Bach, Wayne Dyer, Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen Catherine Ponder, Norman Doidge…and dozens more…

This corner book stand is cover to cover, page upon page of personal growth teachers experience. For many years these books were stacked at the top of my bed, on the bedside table, on the floor and under my bed too - oh and the book…Long Walk To Freedom, Nelson Mandella!..it was there too, so many books with meaning.

No wonder I often woke tired and weary - so much chatter happening within those pages!!! I was always hungry to learn.

Here’s what I discovered! This great library and the hundreds of books I have let-go so others too can learn - they are just words, until we activate them into our own living experience.

There are times when we read for entertainment or relaxation, we read to learn and often whilst reading we begin comparing our life, our experience and journey to that of another. Sometimes that inspires.

The real value is when our reading inspires us to action. When it moves us to action, from one emotional awareness to another and we begin to change - change our thoughts, change our language, change the way we think about our-self, the way we move, feel, energise and inspire our self toward, self change, self growth and self mastery.

Words are energy. Energy in action creates change. Positive energy in action creates permanent change.

When the words we hear, the words we read, are put into positive action our lives change and we become a better person. Remember, a book is created word upon word, page by page. Personal growth happens moment by moment through thought and action, inspiring us to Self Mastery.

Many ask, how do we know when self mastery is reached? Or they ask…how will I know if I am achieving self-mastery.

Self Mastery is about self actualisation more simply put, is a deep form of self-discovery, self-realisation, self-exploration - such is the journey of self-discovery into the entelechy of our unique and individual DNA.

Entelechy is the word that Aristotle used to describe higher guidance and purpose. It is the vital force that activates the acorn to become the oak tree. Entelechy - transforms our highest potential to living reality.

How will you know that self growth, self mastery is happening for you? You’ll begin to know the experience of love and self love, and deep inner-peace. You’ll be less interested in comparing and more interested in connectedness.

2015© Sylvia Marina ND., EXPERT IN HUMAN BEHAVIOUR | SPEAKER E:   info@sylviamarina.com | W: www.sylviamarina.com
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ARE YOU THERE YET?

Monday, February 09, 2015

ARE YOU THERE YET?  written by Sylvia Marina

A few days ago driving to the seaside town of Rockingham, a little voice from the back seat asks…are we there yet? I remember when my children did that and when I was young us kids said those very same words…are we there yet?
Possibly every child has asked that question!

Perhaps on many levels of self-growth we still do ask that same question – Are we there yet?

How often in the journey of life do you look in your mirror and question yourself…

  • Are You Living Your Dream or Just Dreaming?
  • Are You Being Your Authentic Self?
  • Are You Being Who Others Expect You To Be?
  • Are You Looking For A Role Model?
  • Are You Looking For Someone To Tell You….
    How To DO Your Life?

The real question is, how do we stop being who we genuinely aren’t.
How do we relieve our-self of the false fronts of people pleasing.
How do we stop the obsessive need for place and power?

Instead of secretly asking ‘am I there yet’.
Stop comparing and agonizing where you think you are at.
Stop comparing with where you perceive another to be on the ‘social or career, spiritual awakening, self-growth emotional development’.

If you have this behaviour…It’s well past time to break out of your emotional Spandex that keeps you contained, insignificantly and small.

Contained within the emotional Spandex your ‘big picture’ dream/vision can-not eventuate. Women in history wore tightly laced-up under-garments – living to the expectations of society, living to please others.

Perhaps it feels like a safe place to be! While you stay squished in that little space you’ll remain the dreamer…that is if ‘in-there’ there’s room to dream! OR you can break-out and start having fun, being genuine, being your authentic self whilst delivering your gifts and talents to the world – just by being your authentic self!

Replace fear with calm and certainty.
Learn that all challenges contain hidden treasures.
Live a life that matters. Live a life of meaning.
You have a purpose, connect to your true purpose – if you need a guide, choose me…
You will learn a new depth of inner happiness and a freedom…
inner joy and a ‘beyond words inner peace’.
 
2015© Sylvia Marina ND., EXPERT IN HUMAN BEHAVIOUR | SPEAKER E:   info@sylviamarina.com | W: www.sylviamarina.com
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NOW IS A GOOD TIME

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

NOW IS A GOOD TIME?  written by Sylvia Marina

Hugh Laurie said….“It's a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you're ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any.” … and I agree.

This weekend I was totally in the moment, fully enjoying presenting class to people who were eager to make change in their life. It’s not for the faint hearted we decided but it is for those who are ready to embrace new!

The age old wisdom book states examples in nature, there is a time to sow and a time to reap, a time when the seed is ready to become the plant, a time when the future calls “now”, a time when an idea, a dream, a yearning desire is ripe for activation.

Getting started is what stops people from fulfilling their heart desires, emotional desires, relationship and intimacy desire.

The words private clients often tell say …

“life’s too hard”… meaning change is too hard.
“I don’t want to be on my own anymore” but I don’t know how to do or have different.

My relationship, career, business is okay but not fulfilling my emotional needs or desires.

It’s a risk to reach out for love, the new career, relationship, intimacy – the risk of rejection, the risk of more emotional pain and disappointment all the while living with pain, often painful crippling pain, afraid or not sure, scared or timid…

Friends, if afraid or not sure, scared or timid is stealing your dreams, holding you stuck or keeping you lonely, poor or fearing the future, you’ve a  ‘courage or know how’ deficiency.

Friends, if you are afraid or unsure, perhaps scared or timid emotions are stealing your dreams, or keeping you lonely, you are poor or fearing the future… any one of these and you are suffering from a  ‘courage or know how’ deficiency.

A life of stress and misery becomes a depressing choice.

Life is a series of choices, being free from stress is one of those choices.

  • Stop being constantly “on the prowl”
  • Stop gathering stuff
  • Stop hunting for the next thrill to fill the void!
  • Stop harboring an aching heart
  • Stop hiding behind excuses

Do an internal soul searching audit – discover what it is your soul desires? And… Do it. Do it now!

2015© Sylvia Marina ND.,
EXPERT IN HUMAN BEHAVIOUR | SPEAKER                             
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GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT

Monday, January 05, 2015

GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT. written by Sylvia Marina

Early morning I woke in a beautiful meditation with the voice of wisdom clearly stating…

‘This year is about Spiritual Integration and healing with profound results - connecting to love, power, passion like never before experienced. 

Dear friends, too many people are living in relationships that return little or no joy, they do work that fills their pockets with money but leave their hearts yearning for more and their soul empty.

In public life people put a smile on their face whilst enduring loneliness in their heart.

Mid year my husband David and & I went to New Zealand to visit with family and stayed a few extra days to go to my mountains and lakes in the South Island where I restored my soul and made life change decisions.

Sitting in the energy of Mt Cook, my maternal mountain in New Zealand, the energy of my ancestors were very real – the call to take my work to a higher-plane was very clear. With my mountain I wept many tears of sorrow, feelings of responsibility and also gratitude that I was being ‘called’ by spirit energy to guide people to “Getting The Love They Want”.

The past six months I have devoted enormous time and energy designing a totally new program, “Getting The Love You Want”. The techniques I engage in this program I have worked for many years with private clients but never publicly presented them.

It is everyone’s birth-right to feel loved and be worthy.

  • Worthy of Love
  • Worthy of Wealth and Prosperity
  • Worthy of Vitality
  • Worthy to Trust Love Again
  • Worthy to be Included
  • Worthy to be Loved and Cherished

Countless people live their lives carrying hidden barriers in their subconscious and genetic memory that silently holds them back from accessing and fulfilling their dreams or igniting their desires.

For many years of my life, I yearned to know love, to feel included, to be where I belonged… and now -

Everyday I am loved and every day, even when alone I feel that love. 

It is everyone’s birth-right to know love and that is why this week I am launching “Getting The Love You Want”.

Go here to reserve your place to “Getting The Love You Want” training.

2015© Sylvia Marina ND.,
EXPERT IN HUMAN BEHAVIOUR | SPEAKER                             
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BE PRESENT

Saturday, December 13, 2014

BE PRESENT written by Sylvia Marina

Written on a chalkboard today I read, “be present”. I smiled and from my heart a silent whisper of gratitude. Who-ever wrote that message today, thank you!

For a moment my day seemed to stand still.
My attention went to my feet and in particular how they seemed to make contact with the earth!
And in that instant my mind recalled the writing of Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching.
 
In dwelling, live close to the ground.
In thinking, keep it simple.
In conflict, be fair and generous,
In governing, don’t control.
In work, do what you enjoy.
In family life, be fully present.

Our lives today are full of concerns, busy, rushed.
It’s a human trait, physically present but mentally some place else.

This week in our city, there was a little boy lost. Hundreds of people came from near and far to join the search. In our hearts he became part of us – for a short while he became our little boy. People who don’t normally pray, prayed, people who don’t often sing, search and sang his favorite song hoping he may hear them. We were focused and present.

One of the sweetest gifts we can give to others is to be mentally present anytime we are together, when they are speaking or in times of silence togetherness.
It is a discipline to stay present, we need to live our life while it’s happening rather than after or obsessing about the future. So often in thought we are some place else, not totally listening to what is being said, instead thinking of what to say next, that’s not really being present is it!

It’s December, in our culture traditionally it is a time for expressions of love and appreciations. And the closer we come to Christmas can we remember, more important than the gifts under the Christmas tree are those gathered around the tree, the non gift wrapped expressions of love, the remembrances of those who are dear to your hearts.

Remember too, those who are alone. Those who may be struggling with loneliness, grief, health, finances, reach out – be present.

Recall the new best friend, we give them our focused attention. Then time passes, unconsciously we go back to where we were, and we drift away. This not only happens with new acquaintance the same ‘drift away’ can happen with loved ones when we don’t stay consciously present.

Today written on a chalkboard I read, “be present”.
I paused, took a deep breath and wrote in my heart - “be present”.
My gift to you today, "be present".

2014© Sylvia Marina ND., EXPERT IN HUMAN BEHAVIOUR | SPEAKER                              
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CHANGE ALWAYS HAPPENS

Monday, December 01, 2014

CHANGE ALWAYS HAPPENS

It is just a few days to the full moon!

Have you noticed that change always happens on the full and new moon?

By invitation I’ve been working with people who are having difficulty with change. Some feeling stuck and working together they come to the realisation they are sabotaging their desires.

Others are ready for change and after a few minutes acknowledge repetitive patterns that have in the past led to sorrow. 

Before you undertake any change in your life, seriously analyse the impact that change will have.  This process of analysing the impact of the change is a valuable tool in effecting change.

Analysing is a successful left-brain activity…for breakthrough and long-term value you need more!

You must add imagination. Imagination is the skill to engage outside old patterns and behaviour and bring healthier, enhanced ideas which opens to breakthrough and empowerment.

When you engage your imagination and unleash your intuition and actually place yourself in the vision of what you want to do or become, you begin to feel your worth from a heart-centred place of love and joy.

Before you take that leap of faith designing your 2015 vision, you must ensure your purpose and vision is aligned with your principals and values. When this happens you bring your new vision into wisdom. That’s being on purpose!

Where to start?
In the past you have possible begun with writing lists of what you want to achieve. Not any more.

With all the change and shifts that have been happening we must all refocus.

Begin with a short list of fifty-to-one-hundred of your absolute values. Prioritise these to twenty, then prioritise again to your top ten – these are your highest values.

Now, begin to list your dreams, desires, wants and wishes for 2015.

All that align without compromise to your highest values – you can achieve.

Now, bring your new vision into wisdom and you will be “on purpose”!

2014© Sylvia Marina ND.,
EXPERT IN HUMAN BEHAVIOUR | SPEAKER                             
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Re-IGNITE THE FLAME OF DESIRE

Friday, November 21, 2014

Re-IGNITE THE FLAME OF DESIRE

Her voice was very faint, so I leant a little closer.

Four decades of marriage, adult children, grandchildren, magnificent home…everything appearing perfect, but she is sad, desperately sad, lonely, feels useless, friend-less and desolate.

Friend-less?
Yes, he was her best friend and she would like that to happen again - but how?

This is not an isolated case. My client sought me with a reoccurring digestion problem.

Her marriage had many worthwhile aspects and times of content, but truthfully, hidden beneath, an ever-present silence and suffering of worthlessness. Smothered in the virtue of kindness (he wants to be involved and now does all the shopping and cooking) her role as family nurturer little by little disappeared.

In many cultures, when a women marries she forfeits her career to be the homemaker, an altruistic vocation. For most this arrangement works well. To others it is a sacrifice, many feel their intelligences are not being challenged or stimulated. The routine of life becomes stagnant. Boredom weaves a pattern of worthlessness - the flame of desire extinguished, love becomes a word and for many the beginning of the path to separate lives.

HOW TO Re-IGNITE THE FLAME OF DESIRE…

1. Create new habits and recreate the old ones that you are missing.

Do something different - meet him/her for lunch     

Once a week get up earlier and serve breakfast outside or pack a basket and go for an early morning picnic - together.

Offer compliments - notice and compliment at least once a day.

  • what they wear
  • what they did - it is so easy to take home chores for granted
  • wait for them to open the door, say thank you.

While it’s easy to try these ideas once or twice - the truth is you must put consistent effort if you want positive results.

My client resented the fact that her role in the home had been taken over - he however thought he was being helpful.

2. Frequently check your attitude.

Its so easy to be apathetic. Apathy is a state of indifference. Over time all relationships change. What is sad is when acknowledgements happen without feeling or effort, without interest, instead just stale, lifeless words or actions. An apathetic individual has an absence of interest in or concern about emotional, social, spiritual, philosophical and/or physical life and the world - don’t let this be you.

  • touch as you pass
  • listen to the tone of your voice
  • choose words that inspire, love, grace and thoughtfulness

Become interested in life again.

  • Begin meeting your ‘almost forgotten’ friends for coffee
  • join tennis, squash, golf, art, music ….

Remember it’s easy to try these ideas once or twice - we must put consistent effort for long-term positive results. Stop, the status quo. If your relationship with your ‘special’ person is boring do something about it today.

3. Create fun.

When did you date him/her. Don’t wait for the other to ask. try new and interesting…

  • book a cooking class
  • hand in hand stroll the zoo, the beach, river, lake, forest…
  • hit a theme park - just the two of you
  • go bowling
  • check the calendar for the next full moon - have a picnic supper while watching the moon rise!

Will any of these suggestions work?
Yes, your renewed awareness and daily effort will lead you to getting the love and attention YOU want, in the way YOU want it.

If you are suffering from physical or emotional heart pain, if your body is rejecting nourishment or you find yourself consumed by anger and resentment, know it doesn’t have to be this way – not a moment longer.

2014© Sylvia Marina ND.,
EXPERT IN HUMAN BEHAVIOUR | SPEAKER                             
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IN THE BEGINNING

Thursday, October 16, 2014

IN THE BEGINNING

As you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, have you ever desired that experience somewhere else! Of course, remember the best car you ever bought, your first love, the best employee…and you moved on!

Every relationship has a cycle.
The universe determines who walks into your life, you determine who you let stay.

I recently read, sustaining love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy.

I don’t agree. Love is not difficult. Love just is.

What happens through life, we grow, we have a voice, and sometimes we even become involved in control? This is caustic behavior if what you seek is a joyful relationship.
Anything that is different to your way of thinking can be read as wrong.
That’s a silly interpretation of love, that’s just looking from a different point of perspective.

Different isn’t wrong. Different is exciting, your intelligences are calling ‘what next can I learn’. When you are not open to new learning any challenge, question, or inquiry is interpreted as ‘he/she doesn’t love me anymore.            
If your personal self-love, if your intimate relationship is connected to belonging then what is being challenged is your place in the great tapestry of life.

When your sense of ‘belonging’ is challenged, you begin to withdraw from your partner’s physical touch, you decide you no longer wish to have a personal or business relationship with that person, you begin looking somewhere else. The end of one cycle signifies the beginning of another. Is what you want frequent new relationships, if so you are incessantly seeking new euphoria. This can be an addiction.

Different isn’t wrong, but indifference is destructive.

Kindness, caring, patience, grace are delicate components that entwine and nurture relationships.

When your love is infinite love you are assured in your relationship.
You are open and hold space for meaningful conversation, even with controversial topics your are brave and graceful, you state your need of more education and understanding. You ask ‘tell me more’ and your partner is love and delight in that moment of sharing.

Infinite love is pure, open, vulnerable, precious. 
Sharing, learning and understanding is the journey, here and now with those you love.

2014© Sylvia Marina ND., EXPERT IN HUMAN BEHAVIOUR | SPEAKER                             
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